Since you can be difficult, not a lot of people are able to deal with you. If anyone needs to know how to understand and accept you, they must ask mom and dad. Eventually you will realize what loving and caring for someone is truly all about: it is by allowing the other be their own person, being there for them to support them through their failures and success, and loving them more at their worst. Because that’s how mom and dad raised you and how they showed they love you and care for you.
You will go through a lot of changes — from where you will be living, where you will be working, what you will be doing, to the kind of people you will be connecting with. I think you already like going through changes, so this one will be icing on the cake. Life will not be easy. You will go through some challenging and trying times. You will feel like you are on your own and by yourself during those times because you will be away from family and friends. Those challenging and trying times will only make you a better and stronger person.
You will not have the answer to all of your questions and you will not get everything that you want. But what you will have is dedication, determination, motivation, discipline and your positive attitude. Remember, you’re not always going to have positive outlook and mindset and that’s alright. You are human, embrace you humanness!
Do not expect others to accept you for who you really are unless you accept yourself for who you really are first. Does that make sense? You are not perfect and you are human. Here’s a Bruce Lee quote for you: “When I look around I always learn something, and that is to be yourself always. Express yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. Start from the root of your being and ask, how can I be me?”.
Your personal growth will involve a lot of “not giving a f#ck”. Remember, you are not a f#cktifarian and you do not have unlimited f#cks to give. Save them and give them to things, events, and people that truly matter to you. Do you care about what others think and say about you? Soon you will realize that none of those matters. Why? Because #YouDoYouBoo [Yes, pound signs or hashtags, as we call it today, will be a thing. Good luck because you will use it a lot!]. Not everyone will like you and you will definitely annoy a lot of people but that does not mean you cannot like them in return. You will accept and acknowledge others because you will want to see the best in people and assume positive intentions from others. Also, do not forget what mom and dad taught you about being kind and respectful towards others -- no exceptions!
Success and happiness are not what you think they’re supposed to be. Soon you will realize that success does not collerate to how much money you make or the title next to or under your name. Soon you will realize that happiness is not something that falls from the sky or handed to you. Here is a quote from Michelle Obama: "I have to plan my happiness. That's the thing, we think happiness just happens and it can, but you've got to work in some happiness too" [Yes, U.S. got their first black president. But then he was succedeed by a racist, mysoginistic, and overall disappointing white president. Be prepared!].
Follow with your mind and lead with your heart. Whatever that means, you will someday figure this out. Finally, “embrace the suck”, you’re going to be unique, you’re going to be different, you’re going to be weird, you will stand out, and you will enjoy all of it!
Your Future Self,